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Koby Frances
March 11, 2026

Why Am I Attracted to the Wrong People?

Koby Frances
March 11, 2026

You feel strong chemistry — and then the same frustrations repeat. If this pattern sounds familiar, it may not be about “bad choices,” but about how attraction gets wired.

Koby Frances
March 10, 2026

Why Attraction and Compatibility Don’t Always Align

Koby Frances
March 10, 2026

Strong attraction does not always signal long-term compatibility. This essay explores why intensity and stability often move at different speeds.


Koby Frances
March 9, 2026

How Do I Know If It’s Real Attraction — or Just Fantasy?

Koby Frances
March 9, 2026

Is this chemistry grounded in real connection — or in imagination and projection? Understanding the difference between fantasy-driven arousal and relational attraction can change dating decisions.

Koby Frances
March 8, 2026

Can Attraction Grow Over Time?

Koby Frances
March 8, 2026

Many people worry when compatibility exists but the initial spark of attraction feels unclear. This article explains how attraction can develop gradually through familiarity, emotional safety and shared experience.

Koby Frances
March 6, 2026

Why Do I Lose Interest When Things Start Getting Serious?

Koby Frances
March 6, 2026

Do you lose interest just as a relationship starts to deepen? Sometimes fading attraction isn’t about incompatibility — it’s about how we respond to vulnerability.

Koby Frances
March 5, 2026

What If My Attraction and My Values Don’t Match?

Koby Frances
March 5, 2026

Sometimes the hardest dating question isn’t whether you feel something — it’s whether what you feel fits the life you want to build. Clarifying the difference between attraction and values can ease internal conflict.

Koby Frances
March 4, 2026

Why Fantasy Sometimes Replaces Attraction in Long-Term Relationships

Koby Frances
March 4, 2026

In long-term relationships, some people notice that fantasy generates stronger arousal than the relationship itself. Understanding the difference between fantasy and relational attraction can bring clarity.

Koby Frances
February 26, 2026

What If I Like Someone But Don’t Feel The Spark?

Koby Frances
February 26, 2026

What if you like someone and see real relationship potential, but the spark isn’t there yet? Understanding how attraction and compatibility develop in dating can help clarify this common dilemma.

Koby Frances
February 25, 2026

What If My Attractions Don’t Fully Match the Life I Want?

Koby Frances
February 25, 2026

What happens when your attractions and the kind of relationship you hope to build seem to point in different directions? Understanding how attraction develops can help clarify this confusing experience.


Koby Frances
February 23, 2026

Why Do I Keep Falling for the Same Type of Person?

Koby Frances
February 23, 2026

Many people eventually notice a puzzling pattern in their dating lives: they keep feeling drawn to the same kind of partner, even when those relationships don’t lead where they hoped. This article explores why attraction often follows recognizable psychological patterns and how understanding those patterns can help bring greater clarity to relationship decisions.

Koby Frances
February 22, 2026

How to Find the Right Online Therapist in New York for Dating & Relationship Issues

Koby Frances
February 22, 2026
How to Find the Right Online Therapist in New York for Dating & Relationship Issues

Choosing an online therapist in New York involves more than scheduling convenience. If you’re navigating dating uncertainty or attraction patterns, finding a clinician with a clear and structured approach can make all the difference.

Koby Frances PhD | Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Virtual Therapy for dating, attraction and relationship clarity

Serving Clients throughout New York State

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