“Why does attraction feel so powerful—and so confusing?”
Koby Frances, PhD, NY Licensed Psychologist
Many thoughtful people come to therapy asking important questions about themselves and their relationships:
“Why do I repeatedly fall for people who need rescuing?”
“Why do I tend to quickly idealize and fall-hard for certain types of people?”
“Why do I feel so anxious and obsessive when dating?”
“Why don’t I feel as strongly when meeting nice people who may be more compatible?”
In my experience, people often feel enormous relief once their attraction and relationship experiences begin to make sense. Rather than feeling random, meaningless, or like signs that something is fundamentally wrong, these experiences often become easier to understand and navigate. As people gain greater clarity, they often stop feeling trapped by confusion, obsession, comparison, or panic. For many, this process leads to a clearer understanding of themselves, their attraction patterns, and their relationship needs.
Many of the individuals I work with are also navigating these questions within the context of religious commitments, personal values, family expectations, and cultural backgrounds. These influences often play an important role in how people understand attraction, relationships, identity, and major life decisions.
If you are looking for more clarity about your own dating and relationship experiences, you’re welcome to reach out to schedule a consultation or ask questions about working together.