Greater Clarity Begins With a Different Understanding
Many clients I work with are navigating dating, relationship or sexual concerns that often bring tremendous confusion and emotional pain.
Over more than fifteen years of clinical practice, I have developed a way of understanding these concerns that can bring remarkable clarity by focusing on the parts of the experience that matter most—but that are also easiest to overlook.
Choose any one of these topics to begin exploring.
Dating & Relationships—>
Pornography & Compulsive Sexual Behavior—>
Unwanted Attractions & Sexual Identity Questions
Confusing Attraction Patterns—>
I am also a seasoned psychodynamic psychotherapist who provides evidence based, trauma-informed care for adults experiencing long-standing anxiety, depression, low self-worth, family conflict, career confusion, spiritual alienation, relationship patterns and other emotional challenges.
Wherever you are in the process, a free 15-minute introductory call can help clarify the next step.
An Approach That Looks Beneath The Surface
Many of the dating and relationship concerns that I help people with become much easier to understand when we look beyond symptoms and behaviors, to ask not just “What exactly am I feeling and why?” but more specifically—
“Why has this person, fantasy or relationship become so emotionally compelling in the first place?”
Watch this brief introduction to my approach.
Common Types of Confusing Attractions, Introduction Video by Koby Frances, PhD
Practical Articles and Resources
Explore articles and practical resources designed to help you navigate common dating, relationship and attraction questions.
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Get psychologically-grounded, ideologically free answers to the some of the most commonly asked questions around same-sex attraction and sexual identity.