Many people are surprised to discover how much sense their attraction and relationship experiences make once the underlying patterns become clear.
What initially feels confusing often becomes much more understandable—and hopeful.
Questions People Often Bring to Therapy
“What do my attractions say about me?”
“Why do I lose interest once someone likes me?”
“Can attraction grow over time—or am I supposed to know right away?”
What These Questions May Be Telling Us
Over two decades of clinical practice, I've repeatedly observed that attraction often contains more information than we realize.
The people we are drawn to, the relationships we struggle to let go of, the attractions that confuse us, and the patterns that keep repeating often reveal something important about our histories, needs, fears, and hopes.
Many of the dating and relationship questions people bring to therapy begin to make more sense once these underlying patterns become clearer.
Learning how to read that information can fundamentally change the way we approach dating, relationships, and ourselves.
Koby Frances, PhD, NY