ABOUT ME
Office of Koby Frances PhD
I am a New York licensed clinical psychologist who works with adults navigating dating, attraction, relationship uncertainty and difficult relational patterns.
Many thoughtful adults experience attraction as confusing or inconsistent — strong chemistry without stability, compatibility without spark, or recurring patterns that feel difficult to shift. Rather than treating these experiences as isolated problems, I help clients identify the deeper emotional needs, conflicts and experiences that may be shaping how they approach relationships, attractions and decision making.
My work focuses on helping clients make better sense of attraction and recurring relationship patterns so that feelings become less confusing and decisions more grounded.
TREATMENT APPROACH
My work combines insight-oriented therapy with practical emotional understanding and draws from several approaches including: a psychodynamic and attachment-theory understanding of desire and relational patterns, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Level II) for trauma and nervous system regulation, compassion-focused approaches for shame, compulsive behaviors and self-criticism as well as an Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts-understanding of Self.
For clients navigating compulsive sexual patterns or pornography-related concerns, we work to understand the regulatory function these behaviors serve while developing greater flexibility, stability and connection in relationships. The focus remains on understanding and stability rather than labeling.
Training & Background
My clinical training includes advanced clinical training in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Level II). I also have specialized training in working with compulsive sexual behaviors and attraction-related distress.
My work is structured, collaborative, and grounded in developmental and relational psychology.
Writing & Speaking
I have written and lectured on attraction, fantasy, compulsivity and relational patterns in professional and educational settings, including in doctoral psychology programs, international professional conferences and the APA journal “Psychoanalytic Psychology”.