Dr. Koby Frances, licensed clinical psychologist specializing in dating, relationships, same-sex attraction, compulsive sexual behavior and psychodynamic psychotherapy

Dr. Koby Frances, Clinical Psychologist

ABOUT ME

I am a licensed clinical psychologist with more than 15 years of experience helping adults navigate dating, relationships, unwanted or confusing sexual feelings, unwanted same-sex attractions, compulsive sexual behaviors, and questions related to sexual identity.

Much of my clinical work has been with adults from a wide array of Orthodox Jewish and other traditional Jewish and Christian backgrounds, while also working with individuals from many other religious and non-religious backgrounds.


My Training & Background

  • PhD in Clinical Psychology from The City University of New York (CUNY)

  • 15+ years clinical experience.

  • 15 years of undergraduate and graduate psychology teaching

  • Expertise in Psychodynamic psychotherapy

  • Years of experience as Adjunct Clinical Supervisor in several NY based doctoral psychology programs

  • Advanced Training in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (Level II)

  • Advanced IFS training

  • Advanced Sexual Compulsions & Addiction Training (The Inner Child Model)

  • Years of experience supervising and teaching clinicians and graduate students

  • Frequently consulted by rabbis, educators, therapists and community leaders regarding dating, relationships and questions related to attraction and sexuality

Although I work with a range of concerns, over the years I’ve become increasingly interested in the emotional patterns that shape attraction, relationships and sexual behavior. Exploring those patterns has influenced my clinical work, writing and professional teaching and has helped many clients better understand experiences that once felt confusing or random.

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My Clinical Approach

 

I believe that therapy works best when clients genuinely feel comfortable to be themselves, say what’s on their mind and open up at whatever pace they are most comfortable. Though I am skilled in a variety of therapeutic orientations, my work always remains grounded in common-sense. I prioritize the whole person, not the label, diagnosis or psychological theory.

My approach is flexible, deeply empathic and eclectic. In working with clients, I typically use a mix of structured goals, reflective questions, practical advice, patient listening and insightful comments, as needed, customized to each person and situation.

Clients consider me to be personable, funny, thoughtful and real.

 

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Writing, Teaching & Consultation

Beyond my clinical work, I enjoy providing consultation, training, writing, and educational resources for therapists, rabbis, educators, and individuals seeking a psychologically grounded understanding of attraction, relationships, and sexuality. I have found that many people’s confusion or distress on these topics can be quickly lifted once they are given access to more psychologically grounded information.

I have spoken professionally about attraction, fantasy, compulsivity and relational patterns such as in doctoral psychology programs, international professional conferences and in group practices. My writing has appeared in the professional APA journal Psychoanalytic Psychology, and in Orthodox publications Hakirah and Dialogue Magazine for Torah Issues and Ideas.

I have also been an invited guest for podcasts, rabbinical training programs, community synagogues and non-profit organizations seeking a thoughtful psychologically-grounded approach to unwanted attractions, sexual compulsions and dating and relationship concerns.