Therapy for Attraction Confusion & Relationship Decision-Making
Attraction can feel powerful — but not all attraction functions the same way.
Some forms of desire are driven by novelty, symbolism, or immediate arousal. Others develop gradually through emotional connection and shared experience. When these systems are confused, people may struggle with:
• Intense chemistry that overrides judgment
• Lack of “spark” despite compatibility
• Obsessive infatuation or limerence
• Recurring attraction to unavailable partners
• Comparison between real relationships and imagined ideals
• Confusion about what attraction says about identity
In therapy, we work to:
• Clarify how your attraction patterns developed
• Understand fantasy-based arousal vs relational attraction
• Evaluate compatibility more accurately
• Reduce shame around recurring patterns
• Make thoughtful relationship decisions
This work is especially helpful for individuals who are dating, considering long-term partnership, or navigating relationship uncertainty.